Preschool-aged children often react with big emotions when faced with peer conflicts. As adults, our first reaction is to jump in and resolve the conflict for them and move on, but when we do that, has the conflict truly been resolved? And will they know how to handle a similar conflict in the future? Now, of course, if they are being physical with one another, we absolutely intervene. Our first goal is to keep our students safe. Beyond that, our work in the Preschool is to teach children how to name their feelings and emotions, and to give them the words to talk to others. Our goal is to support their growth in negotiating resolutions to their conflicts now and in the future. We use a calm voice when approaching children in conflict, and we always move to their eye level. After they have have calmed down, we often begin by saying, “I see you’re having a problem.” If they haven’t developed the language skills to say from their perspective what happened, we begin narrating what we see. We then offer children ideas on things they can say to each other. We want children to listen to their friends; therefore, we model active listening and empathy. If the children in conflict can’t come to a resolution, we will suggest ideas and ask if they would like to try our ideas. Often we gather ideas about how to solve the problem from other children who are observers; they often have suitable suggestions for their friends. We ask the children in conflict if a particular idea will work for them. The goal is for them to feel confident and support the solution — together.